Guys and Gals.

Never has there been more idiotic controversy than the debate about how men and women differ.

Seriously folks, why? Why is it so confusing?

It's the C word. Ok, minds out of the gutter (just for a second, you can go back there when i'm done). Communication. That's the real C word that's causing all of the problems.

Nobody fucking talks. It's not difficult- we've been doing it most of our lives. So why do we stop short? Why don't men say "Hey, I'm a dude. I'm uncomplicated and I like sex". Ladies- I don't hear any "I am a complicated individual, who is fixated on romance and sensual nuances". Or whatever it is that you dig (I understand that needs, personality types, etc. differ greatly from person to person). But no. Most people focus on the art of saying what they want their partner to hear.

A lot of confusion, depression, stalking and drunk texts would die down if people would just be upfront. Acceptance is also a large part of the equation. We all need to be willing to accept that we cannot change one another. People's base personalities are there to stay. So don't waste your time on someone you feel compelled to change. It will never work.

The last component to clearing up the confusion is compatability. Find someone who does not drive you crazy. Find someone who's quirks drive you wild (in a good way). With over 6 billion people on the planet, there really are options people.

If you still find yourself confused, adopt some friends from the opposite sex, and watch them closely, National Geographic style. Observe their tendencies, ask them questions.

If that doesn't work, then hopefully you will stumble upon someone just as clueless as you are- and find compatability in that facet.

I'm out.